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How Both Guys and Girls Can Perfect Their Handjob Technique

Handjobs part of the everyday sex lives of people everywhere, but for something so important, they are easy to take for granted. Done well, handjobs for men and women can be an incredible preparation for sex, or the main course themselves.

woman about to make a handjob to her boyfriend
Send him into ecstasy with the right handjob technique!

But they need to be done properly. Read on to find out where you're going wrong, and where you can brush up your handjob skills.

Don't Make Any Assumptions About Your Handjob Prowess

Let's start with handjobs for guys. Women often know that their partner enjoys being pleasured by hand, but they rush into a handjob, assuming that they know how it's done (and that they are sending their boyfriend into ecstasy.

Unfortunately, that's not always the case. Few guys are going to intervene to stop a sloppy handjob, so don't assume you are doing things right.

Make the Right Preparations to Become a Handjob Pro

If you really want to impress him with your handjob skills, preparation and practice are important.

  1. First off- Purchase some lube before your date (water-based varieties are the ones to go for).
  2. Now- Make sure you have a comfortable place to weave your magic.
  3. Don't Forget-It doesn't have to be a bed, just somewhere with softness and space for both of you to relax.
  4. Oh!- Some tissues are also a great idea!

Know You're Way Around the Penis

Couple getting ready for a handjob
Both guys and girls can brush up their handjob skills.

Before you start manhandling your boyfriend (so to speak), a little geography lesson is in order.

Firstly, if your guy is uncircumcised, remember that the way you manipulate his foreskin matters. The sensitive skin of his penis is underneath the foreskin, so just moving that up and down won't achieve the kind of results you are looking for.

And also remember the shaft. Be ready to use the whole length skillfully, not just the end.

Some Technical Tips for Handjob-Giving Girls

Now we've got the preparation out of the way, what about technique? This is where you can really standout, and where clumsy bedroom oafs show themselves up. After lubing his penis, wrap your hand around it (gently does it) and move your wrist up and down. It's important to establish a slow and steady rhythm, and not to rush. The first moments are the most important. He should only just feel your hand at first, and you can increase the pressure as the handjob continues.

Add Complexity as You Progress to Stimulate the Whole of His Penis

Don't limit yourself to a basic one handed up and down motion. Sure, that's the core of a good handjob, but there's scope for variety too.

Pay attention to the base of his cock (the frenulum), which is a super-sensitive region, and use two hands at time to cover every inch of the shaft.

Mix it all up with massaging his belly and balls, and you'll have him gasping with desire in no time.

Use Some Killer Moves as He Approaches Climax

As you continue, you'll know when your technique is working. And you'll know when he's about to come.

When he's caught up in the moment, add extra variations. Use your hands to create a spiraling motion along his cock. And use one finger to stroke his perineum (the skin between the base of his penis and his anus). Few places on the body are as sensitive, especially when an orgasm is on the way.

Always remember rhythm and stay patient

It's worth stressing: Speed is everything.

Think of a handjob as akin to a music track. Your tricks and touch are like the guitar solo, but it's all held together by the rhythm section. Don't "tug" at his penis (tug-jobs are definitely not what we're after).

Find an insistent, almost hypnotic rhythm that relaxes him, and try to stick to it.

Body Language and Speech can Complement Your Touch

Although it's mostly about what you do with your hands, you can make or break your handjob by saying the wrong things, or acting in certain ways.

There's nothing wrong with murmuring sweet nothings as you stroke his penis, or asking him if he likes it. But it's never a good idea to look impatient or quizzical.

Stay patient, even if he isn't immediately aroused. Your sexiness and subtle touch will do their work.


Essential Tips for Men Giving Handjobs

Traditionally, the word "handjob" has usually referred to women handling guys, but that's absurd (and sexist).

There's no reason why men can't learn how to give women masterful handjobs too. In fact, there's a technique to it that very few men take the time to learn, and it's well worth unpacking some of the key elements.

couple enjoying some good handjob
Finger stroking and pressing the right points is the key!

Take it Slowly and Know Your Target

Even more so than with handjobs for men, the way you start a handjob for a woman is crucial. By stroking her erogenous zones, kissing her skin and touching the area around her vulva, you can prime her for the pleasure to come.

Don't rush straight for the clitoris (although you damn well better know how to find it). Take it slowly, be patient, but establish momentum. She needs to know you are leading up to something, without being turned off by forceful movements. It's a balancing act.

Explore Her Erogenous Zones to Find the Jackpot

Now, gently stroke her vulva with your hand, before moving inwards - slowly and methodically. Stroke her perineum, her labia and her clitoris, paying close attention to the way she responds.

Every woman is unique, and different parts of her body respond more intensely to stimulation. Your task is to experiment and explore until you know exactly what to touch to turn her on.

Now Show Off Your Repertoire of Techniques

When you're well and truly into the action, it's time to start varying your methods.

Start working in circles around her labia. Vary the speed and pressure of your circuits. Move back to pressing your fingers in and out of her vulva rhythmically, and bend your fingers to extend your knuckles.

Use two or three fingers, but don't go too far. Always change things gradually, keeping the basic rhythm as a backdrop.

If She'd Down For It, Reach for Her G-Spot

As she starts to breathe faster, and the atmosphere becomes steamier, you'll need to decide when to apply the finishing touch by applying pressure on her "G-spot".

The G-spot is generally located on the front of the vaginal wall, a couple of inches above the opening, and it's a powerful tool. Don't reach for it too soon.

If your partner is up for full penetration, find it as she becomes lost in the moment, and stroke it, sending her into another dimension of pleasure.

sexy woman enjoying a good handjob
Become a handjob expert and bring her to another dimension.

Preparation, Rhythm, Technique - Three Things Handjob Fans Need to Learn

So there you have it: Handjobs aren't a mysterious thing for most people, but that doesn't stop them doing them poorly.

If you prepare properly, take it slow, find the right rhythm, choose your techniques wisely and apply the finishing touches, you can become a handjob expert.

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